Are you sure that you want to remove this flower? [It] made me realize that none of us have any control over anything, really, she said. Sometimes graves are not marked for the opposite reason: Authorities fear they might become a place of worship. They feared that the graves would be desecrated, among other concerns. Until recently, Sue was on the Mortuary Science Program Advisory Committee and made certain that the program functioned under the guidelines of the Americans with Disabilities Act. The mother of one of the Columbine school shooters admitted she 'prayed her son would die' when she learned of the massacre. She felt frustrated and surprised by what he had done, and told him that he needed to live by the 10 Commandments. Your account has been locked for 30 minutes due to too many failed sign in attempts. David mourns Absaloms death despite his bloody treachery,Marxhausen later told The Washington Post just as the Klebolds mourned Dylan. A Seemingly Typical Teenager: A photo of Dylan Klebold from the book A Mothers Reckoning, by Susan Klebold. Note: Do you have a family photo of Dylan B Klebold? The quiet group huddled around an open California grave Tuesday, flanked by armed FBI agents. The mythology was that they were Nazis and Goths, and it was wrong, and people still believe this is fact, even though there is no evidence to show this was true, she said. [14] On the day after the shooting, Klebold's mother remembered that shortly after Klebold's birth, she described what felt like a shadow had been cast over her, warning her that this child would bring her great sorrow. After Columbine, local evangelicalswho said the shootings were the devil's work and who used the tragedy as an opportunity to bring people to Jesusinfuriated him. In the days after Dylan Klebold along with Eric Harris shot and killed 12 students and one teacher and then himself at Columbine High School on April 20, 1999, his mother, Sue Klebold, remembered . A system error has occurred. Resend Activation Email. He wasnt raised Jewish. Flowers & tokens lad at makeshift memorial in remembrance of 13 victims killed by troubled seniors Dylan Klebold & Eric Harris who went on shooting. On the Sunday between Dylans funeral and Cassies, 70,000 mourners gathered in a parking lot to listen to Franklin Graham, among others, proclaim the gospel. 205 The clean-cut, grieving classmates of the fallen tried to make sense of what was senseless. Translation on Find a Grave is an ongoing project. He had performed the marriage of Misty and Brad Bernall in 1980; more recently, he had helped guide their teenage daughter Cassie through a dark and rebellious time. He and his friend Eric Harris . contrasting symbol, because it is so true & means so much the battle between good & bad never ends Here we ponder on the tragedy of Dylan Klebold. Letizia of Spain looks chic in an all-white ensemble - and matching face mask - as she joins husband King Felipe VI at Madrid art fair, Bea's blooming! We will remember him forever. Oops, we were unable to send the email. She also fell into the preachers arms and cried,she had lost her baby and all that ran through her head is that she hadnt been a good mother. Yet the Rev. Cassie Bernall, a Columbine junior, had been shot in cold blood as she crouched under a library table, and word was that in her final seconds she answered her murderer's question and affirmed her belief in God. Dylan was a malleable person, and whenever we talked about something he would come around to my point of view, and so in my mind it was an effective conversation, she said. Please reset your password. Hundreds and hundreds of people turned out to say farewell to each of the Columbine victims. Following the shooting, Sue said their entire community was 'in chaos', and that their local governor went on television to hold the parents responsible, which started 'open season on their family'. One toted a sign that read, Do not bury him on U.S. soil. A driver passing by shouted, Throw him off a boat like Osama bin Laden.. 1981, These ideas of morality and religion simmer underneath Klebolds recounting of her sons life in the years before the shootings. At the service, Marxhausen told the Old Testament story of Absalom, King Davids rebel son who took part in a revolt and was killed. So much of what was reported about Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold right after their April 20, 1999 attack on Columbine High School was wrong. And I didn't realise until this very moment that did become my life mission, I hope Dylan has helped me understand because that's what I've been seeking for 20 years, was understanding.'. Write a brief biography of the deceased and present it to the world. I was very unstructured about it, she said of religion. I smoothed Dylan's hair and kissed his forehead, searching his face for clues and finding none. She isnt aware of any synagogue in Littleton, and a Google search doesnt turn up results. He tells her he feels angry and doesnt know if he can control that anger, and she brushes off his reaction as normal adolescent behavior. "She said yes with her life. Eric kind of let his feelings be known, his hatreds or dislikes. This account already exists, but the email address still needs to be confirmed. While hundreds of mourners crowded today's televised funeral for 17-year-old Rachel Scott, a victim of the attack, Klebold's low-key service at a mortuary 20 miles northeast of Littleton was. AsTsarni cast about for a gravesite for his nephew, protesters thronged outside the funeral home where Tsarnaevs body was being held. Rather than bury theirDylansremains, the Klebolds had him cremated a grave that doesnt exist cant offend. As the months passed, new evidence began to show that it had not, in fact, been Cassie who "said yes." Her son was Dylan Klebold, one of two studentswho killed 13 people in the 1999 massacre at Columbine High School in Colorado. I held her, but could feel nothing, as I was numb with overload. God was everywhere after Columbine. I do understand no one wants to associate their names with such evil events, Tsarni told public radio station WBUR. Because I know that suffering is going on and I feel somehow it's unjust to be happy. So to have the entire credibility of it washed away, that hurt.". This is a carousel with slides. While Dylan had run into trouble for stealing in the past, Sue believed her son was in a good place, happy that her he was employed, doing extracurricular activities and set to go to a university of his choice. Dylan Bennet Klebold. Dylan Klebold asked the traditional four questions, the Times reported. Theirs is one burial, it seems, that truly no one wants to see. Pin. He admired Hitler, yet his great-great grandfather was a respected Jewish philanthropist in Ohio. "People were missing the big point," says Kirsten. However, Marxhausen did speak to the New York Times this week and told its reporters that the Klebold family held a Passover seder in its home this year. or don't show this againI am good at figuring things out. You are only allowed to leave one flower per day for any given memorial. Christ always goes where its darkest. There is a July 1999 article in a magazine called "The Director which is a publication for professionals in the mortuary biz. For memorials with more than one photo, additional photos will appear here or on the photos tab. . It was horrifying to see him in that mode. Marxhausen believes firmly in a loving, forgiving God and a nuanced approach to questions of salvation. . Marxhausen now lives south of Littleton in Highlands Ranch with his wife, and he ministers to a tiny, rural congregation in mountainous Idaho Springs. Military records of Dylan B Klebold at Fold3.com, a free resource for finding the final resting places, listings for thousands of celebrity graves. U.S., Cemetery and Funeral Home Collection, 1847-Current. His father was very enraged that day, asking who would give his son a gun. Except for issuing a statement last week expressing sorrow at their sons actions, the Klebolds have refused all media requests for comments or interviews. Now theres even more undeniable proof that he was cremated. If Dylan had any hatred, he never told me or anyone I knew.. Klebolds body was cremated and his family held a small memorial service. Try again. Information about the funeral process. He is buried in an unmarked grave in Virginia. Lets not blame religion for this. Flowers added to the memorial appear on the bottom of the memorial or here on the Flowers tab. Columbine high school shooters Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold appear in this video capture of a surveillance tape released by the Jefferson County. Would I do a funeral for his son? Dylan B Klebold was born in unknown place. But authorities also fear that graves could become a place of worship for those who supported the individuals actions. Long-time friends arrived; one couple was from my church. But its something. Please complete the captcha to let us know you are a real person. "I wished for my son to kill himself, and he did," Susan Klebold said. Skip Yassenoff also noted last week that Susan and Thomas Klebold had been members of Littletons St. Philip Lutheran Church. DENVER Dylan Klebold, one of two suspects in last weeks bloodbath at Columbine High School, led a life of contradictions. Try again later. The email does not appear to be a valid email address. Dylan Klebold helped perpetrate one of the bloodiest school shootings in history, indelibly etching the name "Columbine" into our collective memories. Susan Klebold, former director of disability services at Arapahoe Community College, also works as assistant director of Access to Employment Projects for the Colorado Community College and Occupational Education System in Denver. Marxhausen and Kirsten (and their colleagues) were engaged in spiritual triage, tending to hundreds of traumatized families. Marxhausen, now nearly 70, is a burly, plain-spoken man who arrived in Littleton in 1990, and built St. Philip Lutheran Church into a thriving, mainline congregation with more than 1,000 members. I learned how fear can take hold of a community. "You absorb everyone else's pain, and after a while that catches up to you, big time." Yet the Rev. Tamerlan Tsarnaev and his brother Dzhokhar killed three people after they planted bombs at the finish line of the 2013 Boston Marathon. 'I remember thinking everything was good,' she said. Since existence has known, the 'fight' between good & evil has continued. No. Your Scrapbook is currently empty. Thats what we do.. But he didn't feel like he fit in at Columbine High School in Colorado. ", But at West Bowles, the Cassie legend was not thenand is not nowa matter of debate. His father was very enraged that day, asking who would give his son a gun. Her son was Dylan Klebold, one of two students who killed 13 people in the 1999 massacre at Columbine High School in. Thirty of the 36 families whose relatives were either killed or injured by Dylan Klebold and Eric Harris in the April 20, 1999, school shooting agreed to participate in a settlement for a total of . Becoming a Find a Grave member is fast, easy and FREE. Staff writer Michael A. Fletcher contributed to this report. Klebold's body was cremated and his family held a small memorial service. Dylan Bennet Klebold. Milton and his wife, Charlotte, who was not Jewish, raised their daughter Susan Dylan Klebolds mother as a Jew. A family lawyer came. Birth date: 11September, Upon arrival at the funeral home I met Tom Klebold and his other son Byron. Marxhausen hated the whole thing. 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Recalling the day her son was buried, Ms Klebold said he was laid to rest in a cardboard box, and broke down into floods of tears as she said she wanted to 'crawl in that casket with him' and was desperate to understand what drove her son to commit such an atrocious crime. He admired Hitler, yet his great-great grandfather was a respected Jewish philanthropist in Ohio. Of course I wish these horrible things never happened, but certainly I'm grateful I've reached a place where life is okay and there's plenty to be thankful for. As he preached, Marxhausen could see Dylan, laid out before him in an open coffin. Adam Lanza killed 26 people when he open fired in Sandy Hook Elementary School in 2012. There was an assumption from the tragedy that Dylan had not been taught right from wrong, she told me recently in a phone interview. "What I remember most is this tremendous barrage of very hurting people," he says. (It was shown at her funeral.) Yet the Rev. There's where you screwed up!' Yet it is not hard to find students here who thought of them as harmless, or even liked them, who saw their sensitivity and potential. The problem of what to do with the body can be particularly acute when the perpetrator is Muslim, because Islam prohibits cremation. He had survived a helicopter crash in Vietnam; two months later he had watched as fellow crew members aboard the USS Enterprise burned alive. Dylan lived here with his parents Tom, a former geophysicist who ran a mortgage business from his home and fixed and rented out homes, and Susan, who worked for the state of Colorado . Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold, the gunman, had been bullied for several years prior to the massacre. And I can feel her love for him. Similarly, Marxhausen said, the Klebolds are right to grieve their son's death, despite the momentous tragedy he helped cause. You can customize the cemeteries you volunteer for by selecting or deselecting below. Tamerlan was killed as police pursued the suspects, and his uncle struggled to find a site that would accept his body. which Sues friend talks about having worked with Dylans mother for a couple of years prior to helping her arrange her son Dylans cremation. Share. Friends and family pass by Columbine High School student Isaiah Shoels' open casket before his funeral in Denver, Thursday, April 29, 1999. His is one of severalinfamous names thatcant be found in cemeteries, either because families have workedto hide them or becausethere is nothing to marktheirfinal resting place: Adam Lanza, who killed 26 people, including 20 first-graders, in the attack on Sandy Hook Elementary in Newtown, Conn., in 2012; Seung-Hui Cho, who killed 32 people at Virginia Tech;Timothy McVeigh, the Oklahoma City bomber who was executed in 2001, are all hidden. It profiles Sue Klebold, Dylan Klebold's mother, and examines what lessons Americans should take away from the tragedy. Edit a memorial you manage or suggest changes to the memorial manager. "Cassie Bernall deserved to have a book written about her, but if there was reason to believe that it wasn't truthful, then it's a disservice to her memory and to the community. Chaplain, Adams County Jail, Colorado. He is reportedly buried in Virginia but no further details are known. Attention: Death verified by Social security index. On April 20, 1999, I watched the television in disbelief as the tragic events unfolded at Columbine High School. Dylan lay in the casket surrounded with Beanie Babies. Please, Login or Sign-up to post your comments. Dylan Klebold was a child of upper-middle-class parents, considered gifted in grammar school. Join a discussion and talk to others in the Sysoon community. A Navy pilot in Vietnam, Kirsten had seen horrors. Hell also lose his Lamborghini, Motorcyclist launched from bike when his girlfriend hits him with truck, Florida cops say, A man went in for kidney removal. Thats where I think I started getting in trouble with my church, says Marxhausen. Burying the infamous: How killers from San Bernardino to Columbine are quietly laid to rest, Four reasons a credit-card balance transfer may be a bad idea, Dont let paying for a funeral add to your grief, Beware of these pitfalls when planning your own funeral. But I never thought it would hurt that much.. Weve updated the security on the site. For more information, please see our When you're in it and so impacted by it, you just don't think about the effect it's having on you." On Saturday, the Denver Rocky Mountain News carried an interview with her hairdresser, Dee Grantz, who said that Susan had spoken to her about her shock at her sons deed. The media circus had begun, and Tom, on the best of days, is a private person. ___"They thought they had been good parents," Don Marxhausen added. 17:21 09 Jul 2021, updated 00:59 10 Jul 2021. Sorry! Marxhausen, now nearly 70, is a burly, plain-spoken man who arrived in Littleton in 1990, and built St. Philip Lutheran Church into a thriving, mainline congregation with more than 1,000 members. In 1999, Klebold and Harris opened fire at Columbine High School in Littleton, Colorado, killing 12 classmates and a teacher and wounding 26 others before killing . They are picturedexamine a sawed-off shotgun at a makeshift shooting range the year of the shooting, Following the shooting, Sue says their entire community was 'in chaos', and that their local governor went on television to hold the parents responsible, which started 'open season on their family', Sue believed her son was in a good place, happy that her he was employed, doing extracurricular activities and set to go to a university of his choice, Despite being tormented by guilt, Sue says she is finally in a better place, and has 'plenty to be thankful for', 17:21 09 Jul 2021, updated 00:59 10 Jul 2021, Queen of the cobbles! 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